I’ll never forget one of my greatest “aha” moments—one that came to me during a fight with my current partner. I remember the exact moment: we were driving in his truck, our typical route from his place to mine, and we were fighting. It was probably...
Differentiation—what it is and why it is important “We tell ourselves that intimacy (and marriage) takes two people who are willing to work at it-but, unfortunately, we rarely have the slightest inkling of our “job” assignments in this project.” —David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage My first decade of...
The disorganized attachment style is the most complicated and difficult to understand of the human attachment styles. Only 7% of the population fall into this group, whereas 20% of the population tend to be anxious and another 20% avoidant. It might be relatively rare, but 7% of the population means chances are...
#2. You take 100% responsibility for your reality...
What is really beneath the emotional unavailability?...
3 reasons for the intense attraction between the anxious + avoidant attachment styles ...
If you have an anxious or ambivalent attachment style, I don’t have to tell you how stressful love can be. We are all worthy of love, but for those of us who are anxious, it can be hard to believe that we are lovable. Being in a relationship...
I still remember the words of a writer on Medium who expressed distaste towards those writing about dating and relationships amid political upheaval, climate change, and global suffering. Maybe they thought it was frivolous or self-indulgent, or just a waste of space on the internet....
Knowing depression from the inside-out doesn’t make it any easier to be there for someone who is depressed. If anything, it makes it far worse. I imagine my loved one in the hole that I somehow found my way out of and my heart breaks. I...
For many of us, we can sense when our relationship isn’t right for us. If you are anything like me, you’re probably an expert at convincing yourself the relationship is right, despite your intuition screaming at you that something is wrong. That is why I was...