I’ll never forget one of my greatest “aha” moments—one that came to me during a fight with my current partner. I remember the exact moment: we were driving in his truck, our typical route from his place to mine, and we were fighting. It was probably...
Differentiation—what it is and why it is important “We tell ourselves that intimacy (and marriage) takes two people who are willing to work at it-but, unfortunately, we rarely have the slightest inkling of our “job” assignments in this project.” —David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage My first decade of...
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I still remember the words of a writer on Medium who expressed distaste towards those writing about dating and relationships amid political upheaval, climate change, and global suffering. Maybe they thought it was frivolous or self-indulgent, or just a waste of space on the internet....
Knowing depression from the inside-out doesn’t make it any easier to be there for someone who is depressed. If anything, it makes it far worse. I imagine my loved one in the hole that I somehow found my way out of and my heart breaks. I...
For many of us, we can sense when our relationship isn’t right for us. If you are anything like me, you’re probably an expert at convincing yourself the relationship is right, despite your intuition screaming at you that something is wrong. That is why I was...
For many years I didn’t see how a spiritual practice could be anything but positive. I came to spiritual teachings and practices with hope and an open mind. There was also a sense of desperation, as well: well, this might not save me but it...
The first time I read about the concept of conscious relationships I felt a mixture of hope and despair. For one, it allowed me to believe that it was possible to have a relationship that is healthy, safe, and even supports growth and inspires creativity....